Sunday, April 3, 2011

Going through the big "D" and I don't mean Dallas

no. not ME and Husband... that word is not an OPTION in our home. Praise the Lord!


But... some people in our outer circle... a few people actually... four CHRISTIAN people to be specific...

it breaks my heart... children are involved... hearts are involved, homes, finances, LIVES. As an outsider looking in how do YOU handle situations like this when people you know make decisions like this? People who have professed to love God, who have made a PROMISE before HIM and in front of you, their families and friends? Do you sit back and just pray?

Does it cause you to examine your own marriage more carefuly? Does it cause you to pray a BIGGER hedge around it to protect it from the one who wishes to distroy what God has put together? What makes YOU think YOUR marriage is "Safe"?? Are you exempt?
I'm LITERALLY asking. I'm REALLY looking for answers. What do YOU think?

5 comments:

TracyMichele said...

This is a tough one. Unless I am very connected to the person(s) and really know what is going on in the home, I sit back and pray. When people come to this decision, I don't believe it is done in haste - especially in the Christian circle. We're taught it isn't right. It isn't what God wants for us.
That being said, we don't always know what is happening behind closed doors. So unless we are specifically involved I don't think it is our job as Christians to butt in. Now that doesn't mean we can't pray for an opportunity to present itself so we CAN speak over their marriage and if God wants to use us in the manner, I believe the HS will move in us and the situation. As long as we wait on His timing. ;)

~ Laurie said...

UGH....In one or maybe 2 particular situations we saw 'the writing on the wall'. We regretted never saying anything before it happened. One couple, Praise God, restored their marriage. One did not. With the second one, our opinion was asked, and it clearly was not appreciated by one person in the marriage. I think it also is an opportunity for you to set up a close network of one or two people who you can be 'real' with when there are bumps. People who will point you to Jesus, His word, and will tell you the truth EVEN when it hurts. It definitely causes you to evaluate, and evaluate some more.

Mama H said...

Great post...our hearts are sad for the friends that we know who are struggling as well. It's tough stuff.

I LOVE LOVE LOVE the pictures! Beautiful...

For us, we make time to nurture our relationship with one another. It's easy to get caught up in the day to day stuff...but we make our relationship a priority. We both feel the same way that you and Husband feel. Divorce is NOT AN OPTION. So we must carefully foster a loving relationship with one another by making God a priority in our relationship with one another, by praying together, talking openly with one another about our feelings, attending marriage conferences, and by surrounding ourselves with other like-minded couples.

Unfortunately, there's no magic formula. But I truely believe that if a couple spends time working on their relationship, they can make it last through anything. Of course, there will be times when the relationship will be threatened by outside factors...but that's EXACTLY why we should be embracing the opportunities around us to grow closer together with God. He has to be the center a marriage relationship...otherwise, couples will never be all that they can be.

I could talk for hours about this topic...

Country Mouse said...

thanks for the insight girls...keep it coming...

Anonymous said...

no ones marriage is exempt! you have to be willing to admit you might be wrong,might have to change,all filtered through God's word.Be and do what He wants for you not what I want for me.And do it His way not my way.In other words put your mate before your self.Christ set the example He gave Himself for His bride,us the church.You must listen to Godly counsel rather than get upset at the truth and go some place where you might hear what you want to hear.Marriage is worth fighting for but remember who we are fighting.